In my last blog post I defined introversion simply as needing time alone to recharge. I chose not to expand the definition of introversion with a list of preferences because I was afraid people who didn’t fit many of the stereotypical traits (for example the gregarious introverts) would feel left out. I also didn’t want introverts to feel as if a list of traits they can relate to now dictates what they will be like ten years from now. For instance, introverts may end up finding that they love public speaking after they get over their initial fear.
But, lists are often helpful. I know that when I first started learning about introversion I was astonished that I wasn’t alone in disliking so many “normal” things, like talking on the telephone.
Many introverts can relate to the following:
- Disliking small talk
- Disliking parties
- Having a few close friends
- Getting really excited and talkative when speaking about something they love
- Trouble formulating on-the-spot answers to questions
- Sensory overload (getting uncomfortable after too many sights, sounds, etc, if this describes you stay tuned, you may be a Highly Sensitive Person)
- Disliking networking
- “Shutting down” or getting grumpy after prolonged social interaction
- Loving books
- Disliking open plan offices
- Focusing on work and doesn’t chit-chat with coworkers
- Disliking group projects
- Liking nature
- Liking social media, where answers can be formulated asynchronously
- Preferring to text rather than speak on the phone
Even if you can’t relate to any of the experiences above, you’re still an introvert if you need time alone to recharge! But if all of those items listed above describe you then don’t worry, you’re very much not alone and not weird.
